Why Healthy Love Is Boring
Why Feeling Safe Feels So Dangerous
19:26 on a Tuesday. Nothing is wrong. Your whole body is screaming: run.
This isn't a love story. It's an intervention—told through ordinary scenes where your patterns actually show up: supermarket aisles, dentist waiting rooms, quiet Tuesday evenings that should feel like peace but register as threat.
This book names the patterns that make you sabotage the thing you begged for:
**Chasing-the-Spike** — the electric jolt you mistake for love **Sleep-Score Love** — measuring devotion in dark circles and lost sleep **The Two-Inch Gap** — the distance you keep from soft touch **Non-Emergency Presence** — being together when nothing needs saving
This book is for the ones who only ever felt alive when everything was on fire. For readers who want language, not protocols. Scenes, not sermons.
Inside, you'll meet the patterns (as language you can use mid-moment):
- •Chasing-the-Spike — the electric jolt you mistake for love
- •Sleep-Score Love — measuring devotion in dark circles and lost sleep
- •The Two-Inch Gap — the distance you keep from soft touch
- •Non-Emergency Presence — being together when nothing needs saving
- •Truth-Ticking — telling the truth in small clicks before it becomes a weapon
- •Wild-Choosing — choosing calm while chaos is still available
Read this if you:
- •feel bored with someone good (and hate yourself for it)
- •confuse anxiety with chemistry
- •test love when it's calm
- •reach for your phone in safety
- •left a solid relationship for the thrill of a bad one
What you'll get:
- •a precise vocabulary for what you're doing in real time
- •recognition without shame
- •the difference between peace and emptiness
If the sample doesn't name something you've never had words for, don't buy it.
“I've read 15 relationship books. This is the only one that named the exact moment I sabotage. — L.K.”
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Patterns in This Book
- • Chasing-the-Spike
- • Sleep-Score Love
- • The Two-Inch Gap
- • Non-Emergency Presence
- • Truth-Ticking
- • Wild-Choosing